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Looking for good mental health advice places for dealing with toxic people
I am 21 weeks pregnant and my hubby and step son are very excited. Unfortunately when I fell ill with my current condition, my family stopped contact. I informed them when I first found out I was pregnant, which they were not too bothered about. When I announced it publicly, it seemed to re-ignite some kind of hatred for me and after a few days, I started receiving messages from relatives (aunts, cousins, etc) being really nasty and telling all kinds of lies, from me not telling anyone I was pregnant (which we proved we did) to me being money grabbing and work shy, not sick. They then decended to the fact I am cruel for forcing a child to come into this work, knowing their parent is disabled and sick, how I am a shame on the family and a sicko. It was very upsetting and I am trying my best to remain calm as stress causes crashes in my illness and I am scared of hurting the baby who is currently health, fine and my condition is not hereditary, so I think its just prejudice shining through. Does anyone know any good resources or places I can get advice on dealing with this nasty side of pregnancy with a disability?
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Services available to physically disabled women during labour/delivery
Just wondering if anyone knew any services that women with physical disabilities can use to help with safe births and maternal satisfaction, I've seen a lot for antenatal and postnatal but not a lot of services dedicated solely for labour.
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I don't know what to do. This isn't really a question.
Things were going so well. I was fighting to be back in my son's life. Having weekly supervised contact with him. I have severe mental illness. It doesn't affect my judgement but it makes social interaction painfully stressful, and it's painfully stressful for me to concentrate. As you can imagine that causes problems. I've had to spend my life really learning how to communicate automatically. I tend to be very open and honest about my disability, admittedly bringing it up when I think it's relevant (rather than needing someone to ask about it), rather than hiding it. I don't find anything is wrong about that. My disability is not some scary subject to keep to myself. I'm not ashamed of it, I don't control it. Social worker doesn't agree. I'm not allowed to talk about the details of my mental illness when my son can hear. It's "inappropriate" for an 8 year old to hear. When I say I can't concentrate more easily around people, it's not a choice, the social worker said "it needs to be" (a choice). But it's not. I am what I am. It's easier when I'm around my son and interacting with him, but if someone else starts making conversation, it's difficult for me to notice that I'm talking about the forbidden subject of my disability and how it affects me. My son said, two weeks ago, that he loves me. I hadn't heard that for two and a half years. And now I'm not going to see him again. Because I can't get rid of my disability and be the parent social services want me to be. I just feel sick. Stuck. I hate my brain. I hate myself.
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Looking to hear experiences with infertility
Hello! My name is Olivia and I am a journalist and radio producer at the BBC. I am working on a story about infertility. I want to hear from women with different perspectives about their experiences, how best to support women going through this and how we can remove some of the social stigma from the topic of infertility. I am keen to hear from women who may have/had experienced infertility as a result of a disability, and/or women with experience of IVF / adoption. I am happy to provide more details over the phone or email. Please contact me on olivia.cope@bbc.co.uk if you are keen to share your story. Thank you!
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Prenatal and Postnatal yoga/therapeutic movement & relaxation.
Hi I am an Occupational Therapist, parent to two small children and registered Yoga and Pregnancy Yoga Teacher. I am keen to launch (and am in the very early planning stages) an accessible pregnancy/post natal yoga/movement based class for parents to be/parents in this community and would like to hear from anyone about what would most helpful and practical. I am planning this as an online class, chair and/or mat based over blocks of 4-6 weeks. I want it to offer a movement and meditation practice that supports parents to be/parents through the journey of preparing for the birth of their baby and in the post natal period after their baby is born (and all the joyful challenges that includes!!) As an OT I want this to be adaptive yoga which also meets the functional/every day needs of the community of parents so will design a practice that offers support for your own mobility/feeding/baby care/your own self care/ etc. The practice will be available with a suggested cost and a 'what you would like to pay' option to hopefully ensure it is inclusive as possible. Please contact me and let me know if this sounds like a class that might be of interest to you. I can speak with you directly and offer lots more information about prenatal/post natal yoga. Feel free to look at me on linked in/www.jessamychanelyoga.com. thanks Jessamy
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Am looking for deaf parenting groups for families with autistic children
I am trying to find resources for a deaf client with learning disabilities who has a young autistic child. Practical parenting and support
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How can Health Visitors best support parents with a learning disability
I am a student health visitor completing a project on how health visitors can best support parents with a learning disability. I am focusing mainly on the assessment of parenting capacity. The aim is to improve the assessment process so that strengths and areas for further learning can be identified so health visitors can support parents with a learning disability to reach their full potential. I would love to hear peoples thoughts and experiences on this. How you think health visitors could support parents and any extra support you feel would be good. Any information you share would be greatly appreciated. I may use your words in my project but I will not use the name of this forum and I will not use your user name. Thank you for reading. Best wishes and take care. Gina
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I am due to give birth and I am pretty much blind, what support or advice can anyone offer?
Are there any booklets, information I can read or listen too on the matter? What help is there for blind mother's to be?
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Would it be helpful to have an information film with BSL and subtitles explaining routine antenatal care, screening tests, choices for birth, pain relief, parentcraft, postnatal care on hospital websites?
As a midwife I have cared for a deaf couple during two pregnancies and realise how little information they received despite offering double appointments with a BSL interpreter. I wonder if it might be helpful to make a film available which covered all the basics about maternity care and answered FAQs we could then spend appointment time focussing on your individual pregnancy and answering your questions. If the film had a voiceover and subtitles it might be a valuable resource for parents with visual impairments and learning disabilities as well.
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Comedy Night in Stoke as part of our Disability Arts Festival!!
I really hope that this isn't inappropriate, and if it is then please delete immediately. I work with FRONTLINEdance and we are running a Disability Arts Festival throughout October in Stoke on Trent. This Saturday night we have Laurence Clark's show 'an irresponsible father's guide to parenting', which gives a frank, honest and very funny account on becoming a disabled parent. It's Pay What You Decide which means that you book ok for free, then if you'd like to make a donation AFTER the event you are welcome to do so, but absolutely no financial obligation at all. Thank you! https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/faf-in-partnership-with-the-mitchell-arts...
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I am looking for a cot that can be accessed by someone sitting on the ground or a wheelchair ?
Iam looking for any cots that can be accessed by someone sitting on the ground or by a wheelchair. ? Does anyone have any recommendations .? Thanks
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Who is responsible within English Social Care...?
I am severely disabled and terminally ill single parent. Child not involved with Father either. Long story but after finally complaining to Adult Social Services that my needs are firstly going to be to prioritise my 10 yr old child’s care, which is what they still hadn’t acknowledged I need help with so my daughter can safely live with me - I can’t care for myself. Suddenly they’re referring my child to children’s social services! Please can somebody tell me where I stand (or sit Haha) legally? Who is supposed to help me? And my child? I
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PLEASE READ -URGENT NEED OF LAWYER
⭐️DISABLED PARENTS - I HAVE A PLEA FOR HELP OF ANY FORM TO; •FIND A LAWYER THAT SPECIALISES IN HUMAN RIGHTS AND PUBLIC LAW I am a disabled single parent, been in receipt of Direct Payments since 2011. My circumstances have become so dire and strained over years and the relationships with family and friends, lost after continuous pressure of having to help and be relied upon. I complained to the council last year after my desperate need to ensure my daughters wellbeing. I still needed an assessment of the care hours so that I could viably have care in place for my daughter. I can’t rely on the only two family members we have any longer but we have no one otherwise. After I’d complained again, THEN almost been conned into signing a funding assessment; I broke down by the realisation this wasn’t getting sorted and my/daughters needs HAVE to be logistically addressed etc. Disabled parents know what that means! 13/05/19 I had a funding assessment at home. I noticed it wasn’t the assessment I’d been given a few days prior and provisionally approved - it was one I’d broken down in frustration to as logistically it didn’t allow me to viably have my daughters care in place by means of a P.A, to support me/ ensure daughters wellbeing. 19 months on, we’ve not been assessed for our needs! Or had it taken into consideration that they’re expecting me to employ someone I can only provide a sofa for, overnight! Complaint including this has been closed by council. Report didn’t address my issues! They’ve shut me up as I take hours, seriously, to construct a paragraph. Can’t speak on the phone and have NOBODY helping me. A solicitor didn’t understand legislation and how statutory regulations for our assessments of needs and that of direct payments have not been done in accordance with legislation. The legal team-two different solicitors from council, referred me back to Social Services and ignored me when I had proof and argument to legally dispute their inaccuracies. If they did things in accordance with legislation, these things wouldn’t be happening! I AM BEGGING SOMEONE TO HELP ME BECAUSE THIS GETS A WHOLE LOT BIGGER AND COMPLICATED. ........ INVOLVING COUNCIL I AM CERTAIN SOMEONE CAN HELP ME GET A LAWYER TO TAKE WHAT THEY HAVE DONE, TO JUDICIAL REVIEW. MY HEALTH IS “ON DETERIORATION” SOMEONE PLEASE HELP BE ABLE TO GET DISABLED PARENT AND THEIR CHILDREN, ACKNOWLEDGED! I CAN EXPOSE WHATS HAPPENING WITH DISABLED PARENTS WITH HELP I CANT POP MY CLOGS KNOWING THAT OTHER PEOPLE WILL CONTINUE TO GO THROUGH THIS AND IN TRUTH DARE NOT SAY HOW NEGLECTED THEY ARE/OTHERWISE LOSING THEIR RESPONSIBILITY OF THEIR CHILDREN. SO many lawyers I have had communication with either don’t have capacity and/or expertise to take this case. Also, the majority of whom don’t understand “needs” and how direct payments work. Or should! They’ve threatened to stop my direct payments now as I’ve disputed what they’re doing legislatively. THANKS FOR READING MY BABBLE- PLEASE HELP
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Sign Language Interepreters for Parents in School Meetings
hello all, A friend of mine, could really do with going into their daughters school, and having a face to face meeting. The problem is I think the school havent been very forecoming regarding providing a Sign Language Interepter. I was just wondering if I someone give me some advise, are the school under any legal obligation e.g the Equalty Act to provide a intepreter? Thanks in advance
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Equipment to help with parenting 6 month old baby
Hi there, I have fibromyalgia and have recently gone into a flare up since a period of illness. I am looking for some equipment that would help me with looking after my daughter. As she gets bigger I am struggling to lift her and carry her. I use a power chair to get about and my daughter no longer wants to be in a sling. Any suggestions welcome x
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